Finding out that your spouse has been unfaithful is shocking and heartbreaking. You are bound to have questions and then there are all the emotions that come with such a betrayal. Most unfaithful spouses are deeply committed to salvaging their marriage. They are willing to do anything to repair the damage that has been done, from answering any questions, showing remorse and having patience during the healing process. They will take any steps necessary to have their spouse love and trust them again. Sadly, many unfaithful spouses will not react with humility, honesty, or empathy when they have been caught. They will not work to repair their marriage because they are only focused on themselves and doing only what they need to do with minimal drama and personal inconvenience.

What Your Unfaithful Spouse Doesn’t Want You to Know

1. There’s more to the story than you know. Chances are you will discover extra information and revelations after the affair was first discovered.
2. They knew their actions were a betrayal. Trying to deny or downplay what they have done is their way to muddy the waters so you can’t see things clearly.
3. Their phone will prove they are guilty. When they say you’re being “controlling” or “paranoid” when you want to look at their phone it’s because they know you’ll find out everything you need to know if you do.
4. They liked having all the power. The person having the affair has all the power because they know the secret and can choose when and if to end the affair. Having power can be thrilling and a lot of fun.
5. They made the decision to do it. It didn’t just happen. The truth is that they made the choice to do it.
6. They want to blame it on you. Cheating spouses will attempt to take the focus away from themselves by transferring blame to you. While pre-existing problems can lead to infidelity, they had other options. They can only blame themselves.
7. They want you to stop whining about it. If your spouse asks you to stop talking about it or wants you to get over it already, it’s an indication that they are not willing to take the time to fix the marriage.
8. It may happen again. “Once a cheater, always a cheater” isn’t always true but infidelity can become a pattern in marriage. It may not be the last (or first) time it will happen.
9. They can’t be trusted. Even though they will continue to tell you that they can be trusted, you probably shouldn’t. Spouses that take steps to carry on with an affair can’t be trusted. They will need to take actions to regain your trust, not just tell you to.
10. They know exactly why they did it. If your spouse tells you they don’t know why they cheated on you, they are lying. Whether the reason is shallow or deep, they know exactly why they did it.

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